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Skye Sclera's avatar

I loved the journey this took me on, "throwing plates at your own dignity" is such a good image. I wonder, was the sarcastic wah-wah thing encouraged in 90s parenting books or something? Relatable.

There's this dynamic discussed in psychotherapy (usually about parenting) where two people slip from relating or conversing into a "doer and done-to" dynamic, and nothing good can happen when you feel like someone is doing something unpleasant to you and you need to win. No information can go in. No relating is possible. You have to withdraw until you can see them as a person not a combatant. Trolling is the epitome of doer-done-to.

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Myriam Abla's avatar

Are you spying on my current Twitter activity? I had just banned myself from the app for the rest of today after engaging with anons in a substandard fashion when this piece hit my inbox 😆 I'm a huge hypocrite too because I am generally opposed to internet snark. Some rationalize it by saying that they're putting someone down for the sake of educating *others* -- so that third parties reading the interaction can see how superior your position is. But even third party readers who agree with your opponent will see themselves as the target of the snark. It's best not to get in the habit of interacting ungraciously or uncharitably with anyone, lest that habit kicks in during a conversation where it definitely shouldn't.

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